June 9th-June 15th: Week in Review

This week I really enjoyed not being sick and also being able to work in shorts. It’s the little things, guys.

On the heels of a productive week, I thought I’d share all of the podcasts that have been keeping me company. It’s weird when you go from sharing an office to being home alone all day. And I don’t mean sharing an office as in there are other people near by…I mean legitimately sharing the same room. It’s a big adjustment to go from never being alone to always being alone.

The boyfriend has a job where he works a school year schedule and a summer schedule. He hasn’t switched to summer schedule yet so he’s been home in the mornings. Which is good because I’m not alone. But bad because I get distracted by him. Imagine all the things you do after you get home from work and that’s what his morning is like.

And then he leaves and I’m alone again.

So, to fill up the space I’ve been listening to podcasts. I started listening to podcasts a few years ago after I got my real estate license. I discovered I really liked spending my time in the car learning something, not listening to music. Since then, I think I’ve really accelerated my personal and career development through the number of hours I’ve put in to listening to podcasts. If I’m driving, I’m probably listening to a podcast. If I’m cleaning, I’m definitely listening to a podcast. Exercising? Podcast. Walking dog? Yep, podcast.

Here’s what I currently enjoy, loosely grouped by topic!

Entrepreneurship, Business, and Mindset:

Gary Vaynerchuk, The Gary Vee Audio Experience

John Lee Dumas, Entreprenuer on Fire

Pat Flynn, Smart Passive Income

Chris Ducker, Youprenuer

Mike Dillard, Self Made Man

Tim Ferriss, The Tim Ferriss Show

And not technically a podcast, but still including:

Darren Hardy, Darren Daily

Marketing, Blogging, and Vlogging:

Amy Porterfield, Online Marketing Made Easy

Sunny Lenarduzzi, The Sunny Show

Social Media Examiner, both the Social Media Marketing podcast and the Social Media Marketing Talk Show

John Jantsch, Duct Tape Marketing

John Jantsch, Consulting Spark

Buffer, The Science of Social Media

Amy Landino, Vlog Boss Radio

Ray Edwards, The Ray Edwards Show

Darren Rowse, ProBlogger

Copyblogger, Copyblogger FM

Writing:

K.M. Weiland, Helping Writers Become Authors

NPR, 10 Minute Writer’s Workshop (now over, but go binge the old episodes!)

Brandon Sanderson et al., Writing Excuses

Various Topics:

TED, TED Talks Daily

NPR and TED, TED Radio Hour

NPR, Hidden Brain

I would LOVE to hear your podcast recommendations so leave me a comment below with some more. I’m especially looking more to go in the “Various Topics” section because sometimes I want to half-listen to something and passively learn or not learn.

Let’s dive into the week!

Despite how terrible I felt on Friday, I woke up feeling lots better on Saturday. I did some work in the morning before and during my dog’s grooming session. He gets groomed to the house, which is really convenient. The groomer has her own bus that she brings and parks outside. It’s actually not that much more expensive to get Elliot groomed at home than to take him somewhere. Like maybe $20-30 more a session. And he gets done in half or a third of the time and isn’t stressed because he’s not stuck in a drying cage for hours and listening to other stressed out dogs. Plus, he’s always groomed by the same person.

I tried to wash Elliot myself a couple times after I adopted him home from Helen Woodward. All were terrible experiences for both of us. The first time I tried to wash him in the backyard. The end result was a wet, not very clean dog, a lot of mud, and a soaked human. Second time, I tried to wash him in the bath tub. Also terrible because I had to lift him over the edge of the tub while he was struggling to get away from me and fit him through the opening of the glass door. Elliot’s currently a little fat, he’s about seventy-seven pounds right now. But he’s pretty much been between seventy and seventy-five pounds the whole time I’ve had him. The third time I washed him I decided to try the walk-in shower. But the shower wasn’t big enough for both of us so I thought I’d put him in the shower and I’d kneel outside and wash him and clean up all the water in the bathroom after. Well, Elliot made a run for it after about a minute of being bathed and pushed me out of the way which caused me to hit my head and neck on the tile wall. Yep, we were done with the home grooming business after that.

But getting him groomed was not much better. He was so stressed about the grooming, I literally had to drag/carry him to the appointment. He would not go into the shop. Any shop. So that was a struggle right from the moment we got to the parking lot. Once you got him inside, he laid down on the floor and refused to walk. And he’s way too big for me to have to work that hard to get him there and then feel like I was torturing him as he trembled from head to toe. So to me, it’s well worth that extra money to get him done at home!!

After Elliot was done with his grooming, I went and got myself groomed. I had made an appointment earlier in the week on a day when I wasn’t feeling so bad to get my hair touched up. I recently started dyeing it because the greys were getting out of control.

Then, I met up with the boyfriend and we drove up to Oceanside to have an early Father’s Day dinner with his dad and family at Texas Roadhouse. This dinner also included some assorted friends so that was fun.

After that, we went back to his family’s house to meet their new dog. They just adopted a German Shepherd after their old dog passed away a few months ago. Their new dog is very nice and hopefully he and Elliot will get along as we like to leave Elliot there when we go on vacation because they have a big piece of property and the dogs can pretty much go in and out as they please.

On Sunday I actually found some time to work on Shadow of the Magician in the morning. I rewrote one chapter that needed it and edited four more that didn’t need an overhaul. I worked some more in the afternoon to try and catch up on some of the things that didn’t get done the week before.

Monday morning I finally made it back to the barn where I had to make some decisions for Pia. She’s still not feeling like herself so we decided to try the progesterone injection (basically Depo-Provera), called the farrier to consider getting shoes put on her back feet (she’s only shod in the front), and added her onto the saddle fitter’s list for the next time they come out. I rode Pia on Monday and left crossing my fingers that one of those things would do it.

I had an afternoon meeting in Clairemont so I decided not to go home. It was nearing lunch time so I decided to go to Panera Bread since I knew they had food, tables, wifi, and electric sockets. Spent about two or so hours there working before going across the street to the Forum Coffee House. If you follow me on Instagram, this is the home of the blue chai! I kid you not, it is truly blue!

Once I got home, I didn’t have that much time to work before Writer’s Group. This day was basically a day of not very much getting done on the work front, but yet being busy doing stuff for the business.

Tuesday I woke up early to get some work done. It was dark and kind of cloudy so I went into the garage to do my Miracle Morning routine at my actual desk. The boyfriend’s been sleeping on the couch since I’ve been sick and I didn’t want to turn on the light in the kitchen so I could see because we have an open floor plan and the living room and kitchen are pretty much the same room, just divided by a half wall.

While I was doing the exercising portion of the Miracle Morning, I looked up at the ceiling and discovered this situation. Apparently the rose bushes in the front yard decided to grow a branch under the exterior wall and up through the interior of the garage wall (there’s kind of a space behind the paneling). I honestly don’t understand how this could have happened. But here we are.

Later, I got a good amount of work done while I was waiting for the internet guy to show up. The boyfriend has been after me for years to upgrade or change our internet service provider. But I refused because a) I thought it would be really expensive to get better internet and b) I thought it would be a big hassle to change and c) I didn’t think we really needed it. However, when I started the business he suddenly had a good case for upgrading the internet. He did all on the research and it turns out that by switching to Spectrum, we wouldn’t pay any more money, but we’d get 20x faster internet. I’m serious, it truly is 20x faster. Now that we have it installed, I can say that I see the results of this more on the upload end of things. Last week, it took me well over thirty minutes to load a video longer than five minutes to Facebook. This week, it took me less than five minutes. I am in love.

Wednesday, went back to the barn. Rode Pia who felt soo much better. I am so relieved. The shot is kicking in already. And she seems way happier too. She was very relaxed when I got there. After after I was done, I turned her out into the pen like I usually do. Normally, she gets her cookie and immediately walks away to go do her own thing (#DoinPiaThings). But she actually hung around me and was rubbing her head up against me and just generally being very sweet. Heart. Melt.

We’re still going ahead with all of my other plans from Monday, but I’m so glad that we’re already seeing improvements!

Wednesday just generally ended up being a great day. Got more stuff done. Took Elliot for a walk, ran into one of my neighbors down the street, finished organizing my office in the evening. Solid day.

Thursday though…oh man. So busy. I worked hard this day to try and get through all the new things that had to be done in a hurry. One of the busier work days I’ve had since starting the business.

Still took a break to walk dogs with my neighbor. It was super hot on Thursday and after I got back, it was so hot in the house it was making me tired. Later, my friend, K, called me to see if I was free for dinner because she was nearby. I ended up meeting her at Soup Plantation and it was nice to spend some time with a friend after a busy day. Also the air conditioning was A+.

Friday, I was lazy about getting out of bed so I crammed the Miracle Morning into fifteen minutes before I had to leave for the barn because my lesson was earlier than normal. Rode Miss Pia who still felt great so I am very encouraged about that!

Came home and had another great work day. This week I really felt like I was actually making a difference and getting results. I also had a really exciting idea for the business as I listened to some podcasts. It will definitely take a lot of work and time to get there, but if I could do it, it would be SO cool.

In the afternoon, I drove over to Mostra Coffee in Carmel Mountain to meet my friend who telecommutes on Friday. I have to go somewhere with air conditioning in the afternoons now otherwise I get too sleepy to work. Got the chai tea latte which was pretty good. I didn’t love it, it was sweet in an odd way. But I really liked the vibe at Mostra. The only downside is because it was afternoon, there were a lot of people coming in and for some reason, the people coming in with kids were just letting their kids run wild. So, I was pretty grumpy about that. I’m not sure I would come back to Mostra in the afternoon. Not a quiet place to get some work done.

I met my friend, L, for dinner at a hot pot place on Convoy St. It was…not good. I don’t know if we just went to a place that wasn’t good, picked all the worst things on the menu, or just managed to not make the food taste good. We were both pretty disappointed so we walked over to Iceskimo – now THAT was a good choice. I’d never been to Iceskimo before, but it was tasty. It’s shaved ice, not ice cream so that’s important to know before you go, but I was pleasantly surprised by how much I liked it.

After that, we went down to North Park to see my friend, S, before he moves to Orange County. We checked out JuneShine, which is a newly opened Hard Kombucha place. Really good. Cute place. Great music. 10/10 would recommend.

I was still feeling pretty awake so I went with the group to Coin Op Game Room and stayed out much later than planned. When I finally got home, the boyfriend was watching a show on Netflix called American Vandal and I sat and watched multiple episodes of that before finally going to bed.

What I’m Reading:

Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferris (Finished! Review coming soon!)

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood (Finished! Review coming soon!)

Give and Take by Adam Grant (Almost Done!)

What I’m Listening To:

I’ve been on a major Taylor Swift kick lately. My favorite albums are Speak Now, Red, and 1989. Reputation is kind of a hot mess.

What I’m Watching:

Check out American Vandal on Netflix.

What I’m Loving:

Had some really great epiphanies this week – will share more in next week’s blog!

 

 

 

June 2nd-8th: Week in Review

I had big plans for this week: finish the rest of my business set up to-do list, renew my gym membership, record some videos for Minute Marketing, wash my car…

And then I got sick and then none of that gone done.

Le Sigh.

This week I’m very grateful for Trello and my systems I have in place to keep myself on track…I definitely didn’t have any extra brain power to waste on figuring out what I should be doing.

Saturday was Day One of the horse show with Pia. Man was it hot. And man, did I work hard before I even rode. I got there around ten and somehow barely sat down all day. Both of my ride times were after 5pm which I was not stoked about.

I got some pictures of those cows though, in between the many circuits I made between the barn and the show ring. Some of them at least were longhorns, though I’m not sure what that big one was. A few of the cows were pretty friendly and came up to the fence. Pretty much all of our horses got over the cow anxiety by show’s end except for Pia.

But Pia wasn’t really herself this show. We think she may have gone into heat. She’s still growing up (though almost done) and we haven’t been together that long. It wasn’t a problem last spring, but things can change.

We ended up scoring decent in our two classes on Saturday though she didn’t feel her best. Not sick or sore, just…different.

I went to Starbucks on the way home as I was certain I needed some caffeine so I could drive an hour without falling asleep. I planned to get my standard soy chai latte, but I saw they had these new iced tea drinks. I asked the cashier about caffeine content and then stared at the board forever, debating whether I should go with my old standby or try something new. Being that it was after 7pm, the cashier helpfully told me that the passion tea one had no caffeine.

Lol. No ma’am, I am here for that caffeine!

I ended up getting the Strawberry Green Tea which was…not good. Too fake strawberry tasting. I was instantly sad I didn’t get the chai.

I was so tired when I woke up on Sunday, I fully convinced myself it was Monday. And not just in that way where you’re only confused for thirty seconds what day it is. No, I believed this for a good five minutes until I went out to the kitchen and saw the cooler I’d left by the fridge to remind myself that I needed to take stuff from the fridge back to the show.

Despite the couple cups of tea I had before I left the house, I was still the kind of tired where your eyes don’t work properly. So I swung by Starbucks and got that Soy Chai I missed out on the night before. Heaven.

On Saturday, I spent the drive up catching up with my friend K in England. That time change is brutal and with me being so busy, it’s been hard to make time for any of my friends. It was great to catch up and the time went by super quickly.

On Sunday, I listened to my podcasts. I was going to talk about my favorites on this week’s Week in Review blog, but I’ll save that for next week.

Sunday wasn’t quite so crazy busy. I was supposed to ride after 5pm again, but I was able to find an opening and move up my ride by several hours. For those of you don’t understand horse shows or just don’t know Dressage, because every test is pre-written in an official book at the start of the year, each test is also tagged with the approximate time it will take to complete. That means the show organizers can plan out the day down to the minute because they know how long it will take to do each test based on how many pairs there are and who entered what. This is very useful for spectators!

I braided Pia and Escobar both days at the show. There’s a picture below of Pia with her mane braided. I learned how to do this a long time ago and now I have a useful skill that’s actually increasingly rare. Most people don’t sew their braids in anymore. Everyone uses rubber bands with mixed results. But there ain’t no braid like a yarn braid – those puppies are stable.

Sewing in braids is exactly what it sounds like only instead of thread, I use yarn. You sew the little braids back onto themselves and the horses usually wear a stretchy hood at night to cover their braids. If I have time, I like to redo the braids each day. If the horse is good, it usually only takes me about thirty minutes and then the horse isn’t trying to scratch their braids out all day.

Pia had a fantastic warm-up, but things kind of fell apart when we went in the ring. The first half of the test was okay, but the second half was all bad. Like, really bad. Luckily, because I thought I was going to have a better ride, I paid the videographer to tape me. So that means I have video footage of what exactly went wrong in the second half of that test AND I have a video I can share with the vet and farrier (horseshoer) as we make some changes.

Escobar was a STAR though. I am so proud of that little man. He looked pleased as punch to be trotting and cantering around doing a couple easy tests. He was not spooky at all (yes, really!) and was about the most uncomplicated horse we took to the show.

I was so tired when I got home on Sunday, again. Everything hurt and I felt like I’d been walking through the desert for days. I did hardly any work throughout the weekend because I didn’t have the energy for it. I looked at Trello on Sunday and decided that, though I would probably regret it in the morning, bed was calling my name.

Well, Monday I woke up and figured out why I was so freakin’ tired all weekend…I had a sore throat.

I’m grateful to now be self-employed. While I didn’t get to take the day off, at least I didn’t have to put on makeup or talk to anyone. I didn’t even leave the house. I worked all day as I had planned though things felt twice as overwhelming because I also didn’t feel good.

Monday night I had writer’s group again and I had some chapters in the hopper. My writer’s group has now officially read several chapters beyond where anyone else has gotten in Shadow of the Magician and all hope is not lost so there’s that.

I think it’s invaluable to be part of a writer’s group. I felt like I improved so much from being in the last group. I really missed having that community and feedback so I was happy when I got an invite to join a new one. Joining a group is very scary and nerve-wracking, but if you can get past all that, it’s really a wonderful experience. I have a great group, I’m super grateful for all of them and their feedback.

Tuesday morning I felt better and went to a meeting in Pacific Beach in the morning. I had an appointment in the late afternoon in UTC so I didn’t feel like driving home after. I dropped off my ballot (yay, civic responsibilities!) at the library in PB. I’ve never been to that side of PB, weirdly. It’s actually really nice. I might go visit that library again though I guess it’s closed for repairs currently.

Instead of going home, I went to the UTC mall to get lunch at Tender Greens. I was happy to discover that they DO have wifi…the internet lied to me. I spent a couple hours working there after lunch before heading to my appointment. There were a surprising number of people at the mall on a Tuesday. It took me awhile to find parking which was irritating because that was the original problem with the UTC mall before they remodeled it and built an extensive parking garage. But, that’ll probably get better when they start charging people to park there.

It is annoying that they’re doing that because it penalizes people who stay for a long time to shop or who go to dinner and a movie. But on the other hand, people do leave their cars there and catch the bus to UCSD. When the trolley line is completed, I’m sure the problem will be even worse if they don’t do something about it now. However, I feel like there has to be a better way to control it than what they’ve chosen to do.

Tuesday night I felt much worse so that was a bummer.

Also on Tuesday we got ants in the house again. I really hate ants. Like, really, really hate them. I also hate that they tend to show up when I feel stressed or just generally don’t have the energy to deal with them. Ugh. It’s like they freakin’ know.

Wednesday I skipped my lesson and rescheduled pretty much everything I had on the calendar for the day. I worked all day, but actually stopped around 7pm. I spent some time in my garage office sorting and organizing. It was mostly papers that needed to be looked through and discarded. I’m now about 95% finished with organizing that space, hallelujah!

On Thursday, I felt a bit better, but I started coughing. Felt like I coughed all day. Did some work and took Elliot for a walk in the afternoon. I ran into an older lady a few streets over who randomly decided to mention to me that the spiders were killing her roses. That stopped me in my tracks and I asked her more about that. My succulents have been struggling outside. I figure they need to be repotted into new soil, but my gut was there was something more wrong that that. I looked it up later and it turns out spider mites (not spiders) can infest your plants and kill them. So now I have to figure out if that’s the problem with my plants.

It finally felt like summer this week, which means my house has been getting pretty warm in the afternoons. In all the years I’ve lived in Mira Mesa, I’ve never set foot in the public library. I know, crazy talk for someone who loves books. But I have trouble reading books on a schedule so I do prefer to buy books or borrow them from other people so I don’t feel confined to a deadline. Anyway. Went to the library and renewed my library card on Thursday. I also brought my computer. Not having air conditioning at home will be a problem this summer so I’m working out alternate solutions. The library seems fine. It smells funny, but it’s cool in there and they have little private work stations with outlets. Some of them even have windows. The windows look out to the parking lot, but hey, at least there is sunlight. Don’t love the chairs though. They have these hard wooden things with no arms. I’m going to check out some of the other branches, too. This one is convenient because it’s only about two miles from our house. But I can tell this library is a little long in the tooth so one of the newer ones might have a better set-up for me. Anyone in San Diego have a favorite branch library?

I spent a couple hours working at the library before they closed. Internet speed is okay, it’s about the same as we have at our house. But we’re getting new internet on Tuesday that is literally about twenty times faster that what we have right now. Woohoo!

Thursday night I had a call with my friend A. We haven’t talked on the phone in a long time so it was nice to catch up.

Friday I had grand plans of going to the barn, but I woke up and felt terrible. So no riding again. Working was so hard. I was foggy, unfocused, making mistakes, and because I wasn’t feeling well, feeling anxious about the business and the future again. It’s amazing how when we have bad days or when we struggle, we regress significantly and the old demons come back to haunt us.

I told myself since I couldn’t take the day off, I had to at least get everything done that absolutely had to be done that day and then I could stop. I ended up finishing around four pm though I nursed a video that needed to be uploaded through the evening. It takes forever to upload videos with our current internet situation. I really, really hope upgrading our service will improve things dramatically.

Friday night, the boyfriend came home a bit earlier and went to Target. We have been planning a whole house deep cleaning and had earmarked Friday as the night we were going to clean the kitchen. I have been wanting to do this cleaning for months and months so I didn’t really want to cancel our plans, plus I was feeling better again. During one of my unfocused periods earlier in the day, I went down a rabbit hole of reading articles about the best ways to thoroughly clean a kitchen so we went to get some new products at Target.

We did tackle the kitchen! We did almost everything on the list I’d written out that I wanted to do. It took the two of us several hours to do it all. Sadly, only the stove and windows really look different, but I guess we have the satisfaction now of knowing we put significant time into the cleaning.

As we were cleaning the kitchen, I was struck by the dates on some things I was throwing out. I was throwing out spices from 2014 and 2015 and random food items from 2016. When I organized papers in my office earlier in the week, I found a lot of papers from 2014 and 2015 that weren’t really filed or organized properly.

2013 up until now feels like one big blur. After we moved out to Mira Mesa, I don’t have a lot of markers to differentiate one year from another. Same job, same boyfriend, same house, same stage in life. Going through this purging and looking at the dates on things makes me think the blurring of years isn’t just a memory failure. It’s seeped over into the rest of my life. I clean, but somehow I guess I haven’t done a major purge since maybe early in 2016.

I do know that I was writing a lot more seriously in 2016 and 2017. And also working on my blog. But I guess I was going through the motions of life in other ways.

One thing I’ve been enjoying about the entrepreneur journey is that I feel a lot more present in my life. I’m a lot more in tune with my body and I can actually hear my gut speaking to me. It’s not that I’m not busy because I am, but I guess I just don’t have pressure in the same way. I feel anxious more than I’d like to and worry about the future, but the work itself is not overwhelming and is very doable.

What I’m Reading:

Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferris (been reading this off and on since January)

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood

Give and Take by Adam Grant

What I’m Listening To:

What I’m Watching:

Nothing this week.

What I’m Loving:

That it’s been sunny almost every day this week!

May 26th-June 1st: Week in Review

Wow this week was busy! Luckily, I’ve found something that, if not totally keeping me sane, makes me feel like I have a better handle on life that I (probably) actually do.

I read The Miracle Morning for Real Estate Agents awhile ago, but never committed to actually trying out the Miracle Morning. However, after hearing Hal Elrod speak a few times on podcasts and stumbling across article after article where successful people talk about their morning routines…I decided I needed a better morning routine than getting up and trying to leave the house on time without forgetting anything.

I’ve now been doing my own version of the Miracle Morning for a little over two weeks (I skipped one day, more on that below) and surprisingly, this is very doable. Much more doable than I thought it would be.

So I call myself a morning person. But really that just means I prefer being awake in the morning over being awake at night. Not that I’m any good at getting up in the mornings. I once told the boyfriend I considered myself a morning person and he laughed and said I was a slug in the morning.

He totally meant it with love. And he’s definitely not wrong.

Getting up usually involves at least a couple cycles of snoozing the alarm until I absolutely have to get up. I do usually leave the house by 7am, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t a struggle to get there.

So when I decided I probably needed to get up at 5:30 or 5 to do this Miracle Morning business and have time for some writing and exercise, I was very skeptical. Very skeptical.

But. It’s working. I get up at 5:30 without too much fuss and I go do the thing. I’ve only missed one day out of seventeen.

I’m so proud of myself. Even if 5am still feels like an unattainable unicorn.

The Miracle Morning is based on the acronym of SAVERS:

S= Silence

A= Affirmations

V= Visualization

E= Exercise

R= Reading

S= Scribing

You’re supposed to start this whole thing with meditation or prayer or just being quiet. I don’t actually do this because I think I’ll just fall back asleep. So what I do instead is “meditate” on the affirmations I’ve printed out for myself. I read these once through, slowly and silently, and then read them again out loud.

I didn’t really know what to do for the Affirmations sections, but I found Hal’s personal affirmations sheet here and just modified it to be for me. I figured this is good enough to get me started.

After that, you’re supposed to do some visualization of achieving your goals. But my goals are so large right now, I don’t really know what the steps are to get there. And again, I think this will put me to sleep so I don’t do this part yet either.

Then, it’s time for exercise. I actually go and exercise for a longer time after I’m done with the Miracle Morning (or I’m supposed to) so I just do some stretches and try and move all the parts of my body around for five to ten minutes.

Once that’s done, it’s time for my favorite part – reading! Yay! It shouldn’t come as any surprise that this is probably what actually gets me up in the morning. I read a non-fiction book for about 10-15 minutes about business, personal development, marketing, etc. So far I read Building a Story Brand and now I’m reading Give and Take.

Finally, I take a few minutes to write down what I’m grateful for, at least one thing I think I’m doing well, and at least one thing I think I need to work on.

Altogether, the Miracle Morning takes me about 30 minutes to complete. I don’t have any immediate afterwards effects from doing the ritual, but it is significant that when I wake up in the morning and remember what I’m waking up to go do, going back to bed isn’t winning anymore. I also think I am a little calmer, less anxious, and happier throughout the day. Not every day, But I did notice the day I didn’t do the Miracle Morning, I was not particularly calm or happy and I was definitely more anxious. So, I am seeing some small effects from my morning ritual as a whole and I also don’t hate it so that’s reason enough to keep going.

My goals are to write for a little while after completing the Miracle Morning and then go to the barn or the gym after that. This is a work in progress, I’m definitely not there yet, but I would say I’m still in recovery from the really hard months of my life and so trying to be gentle with myself.

With that, let’s dive into the week!

Saturday, I woke up late after LED on Friday night. This was the day I skipped the Miracle Morning and I regretted it. I had a very meh day and was not stoked on life.

I did go to the tack store however which is always fun. Horseback riding may be a super expensive hobby, but it really makes you see that it is possible to mass-produce quality items. Most brands are built to last and many things can be repaired to extend their life still further. Just as an example, I’ve had my riding boots for about eight years and parts of Escobar’s main bridle are over fifteen years old.

I buy new things for riding rarely so it’s a treat to go and pick something out. The liner of my show helmet was literally disintegrating and my breeches have been ripped for months – definitely time to replace those two things. I LOVE that Mary’s has a points program now – I already had a $30 credit available when I went in on Saturday!

Then I worked until it was time to go to night two of LED. We ended up staying out really late on night two because I kept liking each DJ progressively more than the one before and I also wasn’t falling asleep like I was the night before.

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Sunday, I woke up last as well, but did not skip doing the Miracle Morning and so had a better work day overall. We got late lunch/early dinner with our neighbors at Siam Nara and then we went to Baskin-Robbins afterwards. I’m a little obsessed with BR…I love living in Mira Mesa because there is a one nearby. We didn’t have any close by in Colorado so I still think of it as an extra special treat even though I’ve been in Mira Mesa now for about four years.

Monday, I didn’t go to the barn because the horses and humans took the day off. Well, the day off of riding…this human was working again. But I actually finished my to-do list for once (shocker!) and I watched a little Netflix with the boyfriend. We watched the pilot of Everything Sucks! which I enjoyed, but then the boyfriend wanted to watch an episode of Black Mirror. I’ve never seen that show before, but had been wanting to start it. He’s been watching it without me, but it was nice that I could just drop into a random episode since they aren’t linked by an overarching storyline.

I also wrote for a bit in the morning which was A++++.

Tuesday I went to the barn in the morning and rode Pia who was again like, I had three days off, why are you here? But she was good. Her personality is quite different than Escobar’s. When you get on to ride, she usually likes to go to work and get things done. She does not really like being ridden around for fun. She wants to do her job, get a treat, and go back to bed. She likes to please, but she also has her own opinions and doesn’t bend over backwards for you every single ride. Escobar, in contrast, is such a people-pleaser that I’ve witnessed him hiding lameness or injuries from me before.

After the barn, I went home and did some work before I had to make some client calls. I also got my ride times for the show this weekend which I’m not super stoked on. I ride really late and it’s supposed to be super hot in Temecula. Oh well. It is what it is.

Wednesday, I did some research for my book instead of writing, which I do need to do and something is better than nothing. Then I went to the barn again and rode. This was my last ride at home, the next time I ride Pia it will be on Friday at the show grounds. Afterwards, I went by my old office for a little bit and then home to work before I got dinner at Woku Ramen with my friend, L. The food was good and it was nice talking to someone who understands a bit what I’ve been going through with the business so far. I tried to do a little more work when I came home, but ended up falling asleep in the chair again. This is another reason I need a new chair…the chair should not make it possible for me to sleep in it. Going back to look at more chairs next week. If I can’t find a tall enough chair that I can use with the kitchen table, I’ll probably have to put the table in the garage and put my desk in the kitchen….not stoked on that, but I have to make sure I’m not hurting my shoulder and some days it does bother me.

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Thursday I had to go take my car to get serviced and get an oil change. I was trying to put this off until after the horse show, but I got an alert that my car needed an oil change. Since I will be driving to Temecula and back three times this weekend, I figured I needed to go get that done rather than risk having car problems. Adulting, amirite?

I went to the chiropractor again for my pre-horse show tune-up. I ride so much better after I go visit Dr. Brady so I always try to go the day before I head to the horse show. Then I went home to work and then I had a few calls in the afternoon. Finally I went to the bank for the third time in as many weeks. Can we talk about annoying the bank is? I’ve invested two and a half hours into setting up a separate checking account and credit card. The first visit was probably my fault because I forgot to bring my business license and wanted to use a DBA, but the two visits after that did not need to take as long as they did. Ugh. Talk about archaic systems. Almost done though, finally. Just need to wait a few days for my DBA to be approved.

On Thursday I also had a blog interview with Angela Nunez published on Equine Journal. If you missed it, you can check out that post here.

Friday, I got up and squeezed in a little writing time after doing the Miracle Morning. I stopped by the barn to get all my stuff ready for the trailer and then went to a meeting with one of my clients and their team. It was also national doughnut day and I stopped at this little doughnut shop around the corner from their office. I really wanted to go to V.G.’s, but no time. Then I drove up to Temecula for the warm-up day of the horse show.

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This was the first day it’s felt like summer in awhile…which meant it was hot in Temecula. And we were doing all the set-up work which meant a lot of sweating in the heat. Pia was pretty good considering it’s a new place she’s never been and she wanted to look at absolutely everything. And this facility has longhorn steer which was a trip. I’ll try to get a picture of them tomorrow – Pia wanted nothing to do with them!

We brought Escobar to the show, too. He’s being shown by one of the ladies who leases him and he had a super warm-up day! I’m looking forward to watching him tomorrow and competing with Pia who will hopefully be a bit more focused!

What I’m Reading:

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood

Give and Take by Adam Grant

What I’m Listening To:

This:

What I’m Watching:

Links to the Netflix pages of the two shows I watched are above.

What I’m Loving:

That this week just honestly felt so much more doable than last week. And also that Ham has started perching on top of my chair while I work.

May 19th-25th: Week in Review

This week was…interesting.

It really is a big deal to dramatically change your life. I don’t think I can overstate that.

Up until now, I was really sailing through the process. Sure, it’s been hard because I’ve had to work so hard and I’m (still) exhausted. But I wasn’t overly scared about the prospect of being on my own and supporting myself. I was projecting a lot of confidence into this and successfully believing in it….fake it ’til you make it.

Until this week when it hit me like a ton of bricks that this is real, I’m not on vacation, and oh s*** how did we get here?!

I’m fine. Everything is fine. I mean that sincerely. It was a rough couple days, but I think I made it through.

Someone asked me last week about how I stay productive. I was totally planning to talk about that this week because I had a good story, but I’ll save it. Because it really is hard to be productive when you’re not mentally in a good space. So I would say that’s criteria #1. I do have a blog up this week on Minute Marketing about productivity and how I use Trello to keep myself organized. You can also take a look at a sample board I made that shows how I use it for my business.

So let’s dive into the week!

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Saturday was the second day of the FBA Live event with Rick Mulready and it was somehow even better than the first day! The special guest was Pat Flynn who talked about email marketing. Overall, FBA Live was a fantastic event and I learned so much, yet got confirmation that though I’m now a tiny fish in a huge pond, this fish has got some skills. So that was a nice win to start out the new business with!

I also made some great contacts at FBA Live and it was nice to talk with others on the entrepreneurship journey. I know other people within my circle of friends that have their own businesses, but I don’t know many who are working in the digital marketing space so I really valued getting to connect with other people who do what I do.

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So Saturday, I was on cloud nine.

Sunday, I woke up and everything was bad. It was still gloomy outside (I see you May Gray) and I was gloomy inside. I worked this whole day because I took basically two days off from my business to go learn at the conference. I took Elliot for a walk because I hoped it might make me feel better. It didn’t really. I vacuumed because a dirty house makes me anxious and I was hoping that the house needing to be cleaned was what was weighing on me.

We got a new vacuum recently, a Miele, which was a splurge, but damn there is nothing like clean floors. This is the first time I really cleaned with the Miele and overall, I’m happy with it. The vacuum bags are small so the next time I clean the floors I’m going to dry mop (microfiber mop head) to get up the fur and dust so I don’t fill the vacuum bag with clouds of fluff. I felt a little bit better after I was done cleaning, but not great.

The boyfriend was gone the whole day because he actually picked up a second job to help me. If you know him in real life, go tell him he’s awesome! While I am beyond grateful that he did that for me, this was a day where I wished he hadn’t done that so he would have been home with me. I ended up turning on some podcasts for company and I felt a bit better when I played this episode of The Sunny Show with Sunny Lenarduzzi and Jill Stanton.

Monday, I went to the barn and rode Pia who was having a serious case of the Mondays herself. My horses usually get worked five days a week and then they have the weekends off. Pia I ride three days and then my trainer rides her for two. The last week though Pia actually got Friday through Sunday off so she was not here for it on Monday. She was a good girl though eventually, but it took a bit to get her head in the game.

For those that don’t know, Escobar is my older horse. I’ve actually had him since I was in middle school…fifteen years together in July! Escobar will be nineteen this fall. I currently have two half leases for him which I’m so grateful for because he is not an easy horse so I am happy to have found two other ladies that really jive with him. I haven’t ridden Escobar in a little bit because of that situation, but it is income coming in so I am definitely really grateful for that right now.

Then I went to the dermatologist to get some stitches out from a skin biopsy I had. It was benign so yay for that! And I opted to just biopsy and not remove the mole because the biopsy procedure is less painful to me so the last two weeks with the stitches were a breeze. If you live in San Diego and need a really thorough, careful dermatologist, Dr. Cohen with UCSD Dermatology is awesome. I do internally roll my eyes when I have to get yet another thing removed, but I’m pretty confident that no suspicious moles will be left unexamined on his watch. Of course, I could do without the circular pink scars (the boyfriend and I “affectionately” call them the pepperonis) that have multiplied on my body over the years, but let’s be real, my life is much more important than those scars. My brain is my most valued physical asset and it needs a healthy body to house it. I wrote a post a few years back about wearing your sunblock which you can read here. If you’re still not doing this and are playing Russian Roulette with UV rays, you really need to stop.

Finally, I got home and did some work until it was time for writer’s group in the evening. I actually put a few chapters of my own book in this week. I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned this, but the working title of the book is Shadow of the Magician. That’s been the title for so long, honestly since its inception in 2012, if I do sell this book and have to change the title, it will probably break my heart to do it. Anyway. Pages! It’s always nervous to put yourself out there for critique, even if you know and trust the people who are helping you. Being that I was still pretty emotionally fragile, I was afraid that the comments might further crush what little confidence was still hanging in there. But it was good, I got some great feedback and it made me excited about my book. I think it is really coming together nicely.

Tuesday morning I actually got up early to do both the Miracle Morning and work on my book for a bit. I’ve consistently been doing the Miracle Morning since last Monday, which has been a big surprise to me that I’ve been able to stick with it. This post is getting long so I’ll talk about what goes into my morning routine next week, but after I finished with the Miracle Morning, I did some edits of Shadow of the Magician. I also discovered an amazing historical resource, a total nerdgasm. I was looking for the actual location of the post office in Colorado Springs in 1899 and I discovered a city directory dating from 1903 that not only listed out all the businesses and their locations, it also has a “phone book” if you will, of the names of people living there. And I’m sure there are more great treasures packed into its 400 pages. I just skimmed it to find my answer and then quickly flipped through the pages to see what else was in the book. Fun fact: I’ve actually been to the restaurant that stands on the location of that old post office! For you Superstars friends, the 1903 post office is where Spring Orleans is now.

I spent the rest of Tuesday working and trying to pump myself up because I was still just riding the struggle bus of self-doubt. I took a break at lunch time and went to a meeting. We met at The Kebob Shop in Mira Mesa, which I still had never been to despite how long I’ve lived in Mira Mesa. It was delicious!

Wednesday I went back to the barn to ride Ms. Pia who was fabulous. Which is great because we’re going to a horse show next weekend in Temecula. I then went by my old office for a little and then back home to work after my afternoon meeting cancelled. This was the first day I actually started to feel better and in control again. In the evening, I met my friend L at the UTC Mall. We wanted to do celebratory dinner and drinks at Raised By Wolves. Turns out they only do drinks haha. The space is really, really cool though. Total speakeasy vibes. To get inside, you sit on these two chairs in front of a fireplace and the platform actually revolves to bring you inside the bar area. We had a great time and then we went to get food at Shake Shack.

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Thursday I worked for most of the day and went to a few meetings in the afternoon. I bribed my neighbor to assemble the new bookshelf I bought to corral the clutter in my garage office and he got that all assembled for me.

Friday I went to the barn and rode Pia again who was ah-mazing! I hope she’s not peaking this week and will continue to be this awesome through the show. At any rate, today I was feeling really excited about our future together. Pia is seven now and is still considered to be a young horse, though she’s definitely matured quite a bit since last year. However, some days we have some major “teenager” moments and it’s easy to get discouraged. I live for these moments when it’s like, yes, we can absolutely do this. And my ride with Pia is kind of reflecting how I’m feeling right now. Despite how I felt just days ago, I do feel like I can do this! It’s hard and I don’t know if I’m making the best decisions, but I also have to be okay with not knowing all the answers or knowing if things will turn out. My motto has long been, que será, será. That translates to whatever will be, will be. I’ve always liked this quote because it reminds me that as long as I’m doing my best, I can’t worry about the future. What will happen, will happen.

After working, I met one of my clients in the afternoon before coming back home and working on my office. I got about 60% done as you can see below. Still have a lot to do, but getting there. The photos make it look like more of a dungeon than it is…it’s actually pretty cozy and I can focus really well when I’m in there.

Friday night, I went to night one of LED Memorial Day with my boyfriend and our friend which was super cool! We’re going back for night two.

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What I’m Reading:

Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller (done and review coming soon)

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood (I’m really enjoying it)

Give and Take by Adam Grant

What I’m Listening To:

I didn’t listen to much music this week, but I listened to a ton of podcast episodes. It’s comforting to hear the voices of other people while I’m working. I listened to several episodes of Pat Flynn’s podcast, Smart Passive Income, and I also listened to a few episodes from Gary Vaynerchuk’s podcast.

What I’m Watching:

I didn’t watch this, I listened, but this was a good episode of #AskGaryVee.

What I’m Loving:

My barn mornings. I feel like I’ve connected more with my babies because I don’t have to rush off and I think my energy is just much more available.

May 12th-May 18th: Week in Review

The official launch of Minute Marketing went great – I am so honored and floored by all the support messages I received! I truly have best the best community, friends, family, and boyfriend. Just blessed.

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In order to keep myself accountable and to hopefully avoid slipping into bad habits, I’m going to start chronicling the weeks of my life over here. The idea being that knowing I have to write these posts will keep me from doing anything I’d be embarrassed to admit that I did (like spend an afternoon binge-watching Shameless instead of working).

So here we go!

Saturday I worked for most of the day, but I found time to run a few errands and I took my dog, Elliot, for a walk. I also ran into my neighbors who had some amazing news and I am so stoked for them!!

We rent the house we live in, but I love it. I wish it was at least one bedroom bigger, but it’s super cute and we have the best neighbors. I literally picked this place off of Craigslist 3? 4? years ago, toured it, wrote the application that night, and moved into what has been a dream situation. That’s one of the many things I’m super grateful for, after moving so much during college, to have landed in the best situation. And the landlord is awesome, too!

On Saturday night, the boyfriend and I finally got around to watching Infinity War. INSANE!! We got dinner beforehand at Rubio’s and it ended up being free because the new guy rang us up and majorly messed up. It almost made us late to the movie which was a little stressful, but luckily I had bought tickets online and this theater lets you reserve your seats. Overall, it was really nice to have an evening off.

Sunday, I also worked and then we celebrated Mother’s Day with my boyfriend’s family. My mom lives in Colorado, but I am proud of myself that I managed to sort out the gifts and get them delivered in time with everything else that was going on. I like picking out and giving gifts, so I always handle that. We got Korean BBQ with his family and then we got ice cream at a shop around the corner (Ocean Rainbow) that also served Mexican-style desserts.

Monday, I went to the barn bright and early to ride Pia, my younger horse, before going to my old office for a bit to do some training. Then I did some work before tuning in to my Writer’s Group in the evening. My neighbor is in the group, too, but the other members actually live in different states so we hop onto Discord to talk about the pages that were submitted this week. A couple of us have never met in person so I can tell we’re getting more comfortable with each other every week.

Tuesday, I didn’t get as much work done because I had some errands and things to do. But I went and looked at new office chairs because the “leather” on my current one is literally peeling off over my kitchen. It gives me anxiety because of how messy it makes the floor look. My office is currently in the kitchen because it’s starting to get warm. Tuesday night I celebrated my friend K’s birthday. We tried a place close to my house that I had never been to before: Gyu-Kaku Japanese BBQ. It was SO good! If you like Korean BBQ, you will like this place. It was a bit expensive though, so more of a special occasion option I think.

Wednesday, I also started the day at the barn with Pia. In the afternoon, I met with one of my clients and their new team member. Then I went to the chiropractor who is one of my favorite people because he is a miracle worker. Go see Dr. Brady with Walk-In Chiropractic in Pacific Beach!

Thursday, I worked basically the whole day in anticipation of heading to a conference on Friday and Saturday.

On Friday, I went to a Facebook Ads workshop in San Diego with Rick Mulready and that was super great! I learned so much and met some great people AND…I met Amy Porterfield. Amy is pretty instrumental in me being where I am right now. When I decided that I wanted to use my marketing skills to help people, I randomly saw this FB ad from Amy for a free webinar she was doing. I knew her name, but I’d never engaged with her content before and I felt like it was a sign I had made a good decision because the webinar topic was spookily about what I had just decided in my head I wanted to do. I did the webinar and I’ve been a fan ever since. That ad was just the first of many spooky beautiful signs I’ve received since then that I’m meant to walk this path. And I’m just so grateful to Amy for continuing to give tons of value to her fans. I pretty much cried when I met her and she let me give her a hug.

I was tired after the conference on Friday…I haven’t had to focus on one thing for that long in several weeks. So Friday night I took the night off and the boyfriend and I went to The Crafty Butchers for a sandwich and a beer.

What I’m Reading:

Ghost Bully by Brain Corley (review coming soon!)

Building a StoryBrand by Donald Miller

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood

What I’m Listening To:

The Youpreneur Podcast – Chris Ducker was a guest on a few other podcasts I listen to so I recently subscribed to and started listening to his podcast and I’m OBSESSED. I have been binging on the episodes. Luckily there are a lot of them and I spent a fair amount of time this week driving around.

Snow Patrol is releasing a new album, Wildness, and I pre-ordered it through iTunes (yes, I use iTunes) so I have been listening to the singles that have already been released.

Also discovered The Killers released a new album last fall, Wonderful, Wonderful, so I downloaded and have been listening to that as well.

What I’m Watching:

I actually listened to this (rather than watched) but this video from Sunny Lenarduzzi was gold.

What I’m Loving:

That berries are back in season! I love raspberries and strawberries. I just wish they weren’t so expensive and didn’t go bad so quickly 😦