Week in Review July 23rd-29th

Yep.

I skipped a week.

It was a good week, just too busy to write it all up.

This week was busy, too, that only reason this blog happened was because I went on a vacation!

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Well. A working vacation. Maybe I’ll get to take a real vacation before the year is over. Haha. Or maybe not. I’m just excited that on 21st of July, I took the whole day off. Whole day! Imagine that! My last day off was March 31st.

It’s the little things, guys.

Anyway. Really committed to trying to shorten up these week in review posts. Lately I’ve been feeling like I’ve hit a good stride with my content schedule for Minute Marketing. But my personal/author blog has definitely been left in the dust and it’s mostly because this blog takes forever to do.

So to make up for the lack of consistent posting, here’s a largish update on Shadow of the Magician:

Last time I mentioned I was a little more than halfway through the revision, word count wise. But I’ve definitely slowed down a lot and have been struggling lately. I’ve been super disappointed about that, wondering how I was going to get out of the doldrums of the middle of the book and also make this not terrible for anyone else to read. But I had a great talk with my writer’s group on Monday and I think I know how to fix it. Yay!

I’m always amazed at how my unconscious brain seems to know what’s wrong with the book before I consciously figure it out. Any other writers experience this? Anytime the writing feels hard, I invariably realize there’s something wrong with the plot in that area. Of course, it takes me days or weeks to realize exactly what part is the problem. But it’s really incredible how my unconscious brain doesn’t let me cruise on by and keep moving forward to the end. And it would be SO easy for that to happen.

I’m still really excited about how the book is coming together. Really excited about. So excited that I think I’ve all, but made up my mind that if I can’t sell this book, I’m going to publish it myself. I’ve worked on it for so long and at this point, I feel like so many people have become invested in seeing this book to the end, so many people know about it, that I have to put it out there one way or another. After six years, the least I can do is format it into an ebook and buy a nice pre-made cover for it. Even if I don’t sell more than a couple copies of it, at least all the people who want to read it will get to do so. Better than letting it languish on my hard drive.

This isn’t a light decision. Once you self-publish, it’s pretty hard to go the other way. But I think this book deserves better than to be put back in the drawer.

So here’s my plan for the next few months: hoping to finish these edits either this month or next (but I really hope it’s this month). Then I’m going to get my pitch materials together and if all goes well, start querying agents hopefully in October/November before they close up shop for the holidays. This is probably too ambitious of a timeline, but whatever. A goal is a goal.

If you’re excited about maybe someday actually getting to read Shadow of the Magician, leave me a comment below!

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July 23rd – 29th Week in Review:

Started off Monday at the barn with Miss Pia. Is there any better way to start the week than at one of your favorite places? I honestly doubt it. Ended up running back to Mary’s again to buy Pia a fly mask because I literally just gave hers to Escobar cause she’d been fine with the flies all summer…until Monday when one of her eyes was all irritated. Luckily, Mary’s had a cute grey and pink version – it even has ribbons on it because it’s for breast cancer awareness or something like that. Anyway, she looks really cute in it. No pictures though because I needed to get to work.

Monday I really tried to squeeze in a lot of work before writer’s group because I knew I was going away for a few days and wanted to do as much as I could before I left. Tried to go to the library, got annoyed with all the people in the library, went to Panera Bread, got annoyed with how much stuff costs, but at least they have A/C, electrical outlets, AND chocolate chip cookies. It’s not all bad, I guess.

Honestly, on Tuesday I was kind of a mess. Was twenty minutes late to my morning meeting because I made at least five wrong turns. Not even exaggerating. I just could not drive the right way to save my life. We were meeting at Holsem so I thought I’d make up time by paying to park in the garage rather than looking for free parking. Except right when I pulled up, the gate to open the garage stopped working and that was a whole production for the parking attendant. Luckily, when I came back later she gave me free parking. Which is great because I promptly went home and bought one of those holder things for the phone so I can see the map while I’m driving.

I stayed at Holsem until lunchtime. Holsem is actually not a bad place to work. I got a lot done there. Too bad it’s more than twenty minutes from my house. After I finished at Holsem, I walked over to Pigment because I was thinking of recording my Quick Tip Tuesday video for Minute Marketing in front of their fabulous pink wall. But I realized that a) I’m not ready to take a selfie video on a street full of people b) I forgot my sunglasses in the car and c) it was like 90 degrees out.

Ended up shooting the video in my car before my next meeting in Carmel Valley. Thanks everyone who told me I looked great in that video! You too can get the look – all you need is an iPhone and a Chevy Trax natural windshield light filter! Make sure you don’t wash your car for two months – those dirt spots give your face a natural glow!

Seriously, what did I do to deserve you all? Lol.

Wednesday I went back to the barn for my last ride on Pia for the week. We have the Regional Adult Amateur Championships (RAAC) show in two weeks so I’m starting to get nervous about that. Hoping it goes better than the Temecula show. And better than the last RAAC. Last RAAC, we came in dead last. I think any place that’s not last would be cool. See, not all my goals are lofty.

Wednesday was another power work day followed by a night of packing for my trip to Colorado and daydreaming about the cooler weather I was about to experience.

Thursday I got up to do some work before the airport and…(I swear it’s always like this) ended up with a bunch of last-minute work I needed to cram in before I left for the airport. Much stress. Do not like. Luckily, the airport process itself was a breeze which was great because I did not leave at the time I planned to.

I had set aside the plane time as time to work on my book. Which was awesome. Got into a great groove. Which meant the flight was not nearly long enough. It seriously felt like twenty minutes.

Had a pretty smooth landing into Denver which I was immensely grateful for. I get motion sick and I tend to end up flying to Colorado when the weather is craziest. Also, I just don’t like turbulence. At all.

Got home from the airport just in time to leave to go meet some of my friends for sushi. I was so grateful and surprised by how many of my friends were able to make time for dinner with me since they don’t live around Arvada anymore. It was such a great night and the food was good, too.

Friday I got up early to work for awhile before my mom and I drove up to Estes Park to see my dad at his horse show. We rent a cabin up there which is super fun. Forget a beach house, some day I want to have a cabin in the mountains as a vacation home/writing retreat! After connecting at the cabin, we had dinner at the Dunraven Inn, which is a great spot for Italian food, but it’s on the outside of town so you will need to drive to it. But worth the trip! Make sure to make a reservation though.

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Saturday morning we went to the horse show to watch my dad ride and then we had lunch in downtown Estes Park at The Grubsteak. The burgers were SO good. I was surprised and so happy because I was starving.

After lunch, we walked around downtown before we went back to the cabin and then had dinner on the lake. Squeezed in a little more writing time after dinner and some reading before bed. Yay!

Sunday morning we packed up to go back home. Watched my dad at the horse show before driving back to Arvada. Then I did a little work before I went to meet my friend for dinner in Loveland and repacked to fly back to California on Monday.

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What I’m Reading:

Deep Work by Cal Newport (Finished!)

One Horn to Rule Them All: A Purple Unicorn Anthology edited by Lisa Mangum

Warstorm by Victoria Aveyard

Educated by Tara Westover (almost done!)

How to Write Copy That Sells by Ray Edwards

What I’m Listening To:

My Shadow of the Magician playlist. I make a playlist for each book I write and I did so much writing this week, the songs are stuck in my head.

What I’m Watching:

Nothing – is anyone surprised by this anymore?

What I’m Loving:

Colorado ❤

 

 

 

Week in Review: July 9th-15th

For years, I thought I was a solid introvert. I like reading, writing, and other solitary pursuits. As an only child, I was good at spending time alone and entertaining myself. And I actually liked it, too.

It was years before I realized what I actually was: an extroverted introvert. And while that tag of extroversion may on the surface seem like it makes things easier, I can assure you it doesn’t. Because what it really does is convince people you’re a full-blooded extrovert. And they miss seeing the introvert lurking underneath. So when you have an introverted day, people don’t understand because it seems like you’ve suddenly become withdrawn for no reason. When really, those tendencies were there all along. You’ve just been an introvert hiding in plain sight.

Being an extroverted introvert has been its own challenge on this journey of entrepreneurship. On the one hand, it allows me to put myself out there with little anxiety. Writing blogs like this, shooting videos, and meeting strangers are all in a day’s work. The extroverted side of myself can be depended upon to rise to challenges and meet them where they lie. But it’s the introverted side of myself that is a loose cannon. It always comes as a surprise when I wake up and suddenly my mind has declared that we are too over stimulated, we have been way too social lately, we need to pull back NOW and circle the wagons.

Working a normal job, you get a certain allowance for bad days I think. For days when you’re not “yourself”. Or not the self that other people see most often. But working for yourself is a new kind of challenge. There is an expectation that you are always “on”, always friendly, eager, and enthusiastic. Even on the days when you wish you could disappear to a cabin in the woods and chuck your phone into a lake.

I’m much too new at this to offer much helpful advice on being an extroverted introvert entrepreneur. But I am interested to know how you label yourself and what challenges and advantages you find this give you in your work, self-employed or not!

July 9th – 15th Week in Review:

I didn’t go ride on Monday the 9th because I had to go to a meeting in the morning in North Park. I like going to North Park so much better during the week. You get to enjoy all the same stuff, but it’s so much quieter and easier to park. 10/10 would recommend. If you work an abnormal schedule, I would definitely advise you to take advantage of most people being in the office and visit those areas like North Park, Hillcrest, and Normal Heights where parking is pretty impacted most of the time.

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Cute House in North Park

After my meeting I came home and did some work before I went to Del Mar in the afternoon to meet my new client. I’m very excited about this new project and looking forward to what we’re going to accomplish together.

Monday night, I had writer’s group again with more chapters of Shadow of the Magician up for review. There are two particularly thorny spots I had trouble writing in the book and tonight we discussed the first of them which, surprisingly to me, read much better than I had expected. I had expected comments like, “This is terrible. Just scrap this and start over.” So it was a relief that I did not get that. Still needs work, but it’s not beyond saving.

I switched my Monday riding day for Tuesday so Tuesday morning I went down and rode Pia first thing. After I was done at the barn, I had a little bit of time before I had to be at the dentist so I went to Mary’s Tack and Feed. If you’re a horse person, let me just explain that Mary’s is like Target. It’s utterly impossible to leave without spending at least $100 and buying at least one thing you don’t truly need. As such, I try to only go to Mary’s when I know I absolutely do need to get something. Those of you that saw my Instagram stories, thanks for playing along and indulging me! I had to go to Mary’s to pick up the metal nameplate I ordered for Pia’s new halter, buy a new pair of bell boots for Pia, and I needed to grab some more saddle pads because little girl is sweating through her pads on the regular. If you voted in my polls, I ended up getting the green AND the purple saddle pads. I tricked you. Bet you thought I was buying just one!

If you’re wondering why Escobar didn’t get any new gear it’s because they share a lot of things and in the case of something that they both need that needs replacing, Escobar gets to use it and I get a new one for Pia. Escobar is my delicate flower and I like to make sure he’s not going without. For example, I had two pairs of bell boots, but can only find one after the last show. So Escobar got to wear the remaining pair of bell boots because I am determined to prevent him from tearing his shoes off and hurting his feet. For you non-horse people, horses can accidentally step on the edge of their metal horseshoes and rip them off, which sometimes damages the hoof underneath and definitely leaves them vulnerable to other injuries. It’s like walking barefoot on rocks. Horses obviously can go barefoot and many do, but if they’re not used to it, it can be trouble.

Also for whatever reason, my old saddle pads don’t fit Pia. Same saddle, same pads, new horse, pads don’t fit. I dunno. And they didn’t shrink in the wash because this combination still fits Escobar (I checked). She’s narrower than Escobar so it really makes no sense to me. Anyway, despite me being a saddle pad hoarder, Pia has her own special pads.

After Mary’s I went to the dentist (good times). Took forever, but I got my filling and started the process to get a new mouthguard made.

By the time I was done at the dentist, it was already time for lunch. I went to Wich Which and then to the library because I needed to stay around UTC. Later that evening I went to Polite Provisions with my friend L. We got food at Soda & Swine and I met her new man so that was fun.

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Purple Haze at Polite Provisions

Wednesday morning I went out to the barn again and then home to work. At the beginning of the week I had decided this was going to be a major work day so I worked hard to make a dent in my to-do list. I was tired by day’s end, but I had made good progress in turning the tide.

Thursday was another big work day and I worked pretty much from the time I got up until late afternoon when I had to go meet a client in Carmel Valley. It was an evening appointment so I didn’t actually get home for dinner until pretty late.

Friday morning I went to the barn and then hurried to shower so I could go to Peet’s Coffee with my neighbor. Friday was kind of a scramble as I woke up and realized I instantly had issues with Instagram and it affected all of my clients. I skipped doing the Miracle Morning when I got up and instead did it when we got to Peet’s. 10/10 would recommend. I immediately felt more settled after taking time to do the ritual. So if you do the Miracle Morning, don’t skip it if you can’t do it when you wake up. Just do it later.

We got lunch at Chipotle on the way back from Peet’s and I did some work at home before I went to meet with a prospective client in Del Mar. Then back home to keep working.

Saturday morning I had planned to do some work on Shadow of the Magician. I did do that, but it was slow going. My brain felt kind of foggy. And when I switched over to client work, the feeling persisted. I was honestly so disappointed in how unproductive the day was. I was grateful when the boyfriend called me around 4:30 pm and asked me to meet him and some friends at Intergalactic. I was ready to be done with my crap work day.

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Ham Keeping Me Company

We then went to dinner at Ruth’s Chris. Now I know what you’re thinking, but the boyfriend and I have collected lots of restaurant gift cards over the years. Lots of gift cards. Case in point: we had $75 to Ruth’s Chris that we finally decided to cash in. I felt bad for the girl who waited on us though even though I felt some silent judging on her end. When we only ordered entrees, I’m sure her thoughts went something like, Man I am not getting a nice tip off this table. I couldn’t even interest them in a drink. LOL. We did tip though, even though she barely paid attention to us. And it was fun to go somewhere fancy that we ordinarily couldn’t afford!

Sunday I woke up, hoping it would be a better, more productive day than Saturday. But it wasn’t and my introverted feelings deepened. Nevertheless, I did go to work. Worked on Shadow of the Magician again in the morning and again had a difficult writing session. But I realized that, chapter-wise, I’m officially halfway through the revision. Wordcount-wise, I’m more than halfway. So yay for that!

Elliot got groomed Sunday morning too and then after lunch I went to Panera, hoping that the air conditioning would help me focus. It helped a little and I got some things done, though again, it was kind of a dismal work day. When the boyfriend got home from work, I got him to watch an episode of Black Mirror with me. Of course, I chose a scary one. Of course.

What I’m Reading:

DotCom Secrets by Russell Brunson (Finished!)

One Horn to Rule Them All: A Purple Unicorn Anthology edited by Lisa Mangum

Warstorm by Victoria Aveyard

Deep Work by Cal Newport

S.H.E. by Shannon Hogan Cohen

What I’m Listening To:

It felt like I listened to a little bit of everything this week.

What I’m Watching:

Black Mirror

What I’m Loving:

Instagram Polls

 

Week in Review: June 30th – July 8th

Ok it was just too hot this weekend.

Too hot to write blogs.

Too hot to exist.

Just, too hot.

So, that’s why the week in review post is longer than a week and it also is being published on a different day!

I’ll try to keep this pretty short as I think I’m starting to get repetitive sometimes. We’ll see how that goes though…

On Saturday the 30th I got up, did some work, and then went to a meeting at Holsem Coffee. Got my delicious chai again. 10/10 would still recommend. When I got home, I ran into my neighbor and talked to him for awhile. I talked to him for so long that the Realtor showing the house that’s for sale on our street came out with the clients. Turned out it was my old friend and coworker! That was a fun surprise!

After that excitement, I went inside and worked until the boyfriend got home. We then went to UTC and got dinner at Chicago Fire Grill with one of our friends and my old assistant! The food was good and we had a great time. Lots and lots of laughs. I think laughter is the cure for many ills. Laughter is just good for the soul.

I don’t really remember what I did the next day, probably just worked. I’ve been very busy lately (not complaining, staying grateful) so I’m 98% sure I just worked through the entire day. Sunday night we went to a wedding on Mission Bay that was pretty casual and the view was fantastic!

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Monday I got up and rode Pia. It was good to go to the barn since I didn’t go on Friday, though Pia was not that good. That’s the thing about horses though, even when they’re not so good, can you even be upset? Horses are the best.

I didn’t get to hang around the barn as I had to run home and hop on a couple calls. Then the rest of the day was filled with work until it was time for writer’s group. I had more chapters in the hopper again and it was another good session. I’m really happy with how Shadow of the Magician is coming together and how much my group is helping support me through the process. You guys are the best!

After writer’s group was over, I stayed up late working on some edits and making notes for what else I needed to fix.

Tuesday I set up to be a monster work day as I knew I wanted to take part of the 4th of July off. So I tried to fit as much as I could into one day. This was also one of the few days where I woke up, did the Miracle Morning, and actually took Elliot for a walk. Elliot usually gets random walks when I need a break or some fresh air. I think he liked being out early and I did, too.

Wednesday was the 4th of July and I had scheduled myself just to work in the morning and then to take the rest of the day off. Work was pretty easy and relaxed as all of my clients were busy taking the day off themselves. I quit working at 12pm and the boyfriend and I took Elliot to the dog park. There weren’t many dogs there when we got there and then they all left (not Elliot’s fault though!) so we didn’t stay too long.

We had planned to go to the movies and decided to watched Deadpool 2 which wasn’t until later in the afternoon in La Jolla. We ended up going to Chicago Fire Grill again before going to the movie and ran into one of our friends from Saturday who was also there. The food was still good, but not as good. So the quality is maybe a little inconsistent.

I liked Deadpool, not as much as the first one, but it was still an enjoyable way to spend a few hours. It was late when we got home so I worked on my book for a little while and read until it was time for the fireworks. We can see the fireworks at Mira Mesa High School from our house so that is nice. We never go anywhere on the 4th of July anymore!

Thursday I went to the barn to ride Pia and discovered she had hit her head during the night, probably during the fireworks. One of her eyelids was a little swollen and then she got bit by some mosquitos or something and had been scratching at her welts. She was kind of a hot mess, poor girl. We decided to try riding her though and she was actually really good despite everything that was going on with her. It was starting to heat up already on Thursday and there were tons of flies at the barn. Pia got a nice cold shower after her turnout.

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After the barn, I went to Starbucks to do some work in the air conditioning until it was time to meet one of my clients at Forum Coffeehouse. That blue chat is deliciously consistent and it looks so darn cool in the cup. After I was done with that meeting, I went to the library in Mira Mesa to work and enjoy their A/C until they closed at 6pm.

Friday, I rode Pia again and she was also really good. Her various injuries looked better, too. But dang it was hot out there. We were both soaked with sweat when we were done. After my shower, I went straight to the library to work until lunch. Found out you can’t eat in the library. The guard was super nice about it though. Basically told me to just hide the snacks!

After lunch, I went to meet my friend, K, at King’s Craft Coffee in Poway. I know what you’re thinking, this girl consumes a lot of tea and chai lattes. And you’d be right about that. Someday maybe I’ll have my own office space, but until then, I’m trading my dollars for internet access and air conditioning. It was 109 on the way to Poway. 109. Holy hell.

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Sadly, it wasn’t that cool inside the King’s Craft. They are still my favorite coffee shop in San Diego though so I’m giving them a pass. I had one of their summer creations, I think this was hibiscus tea, orange juice, and vanilla. It was delicious. And of course it looked beautiful. Definitely Instagram-worthy. I worked until they closed and when I got back to my car, the thermostat was reading 118.

Just no. Do not like.

The boyfriend and I went and got dinner and when we came back, we dragged the air conditioning unit into his office and played video games together. Well, it ended up being that I played a video game, he bailed me out when I couldn’t figure out, and he watched Thor: Ragnarok on the other screen. Whatever. It was too hot to think of better activities we could do together.

Saturday, I just woke up pissed off. Mad at the world. Angry. Also it was already too damn hot. I escaped to the library as soon as I could to power through my Saturday work. The boyfriend skipped paintball because of the heat so I had planned to spend some time with him in the afternoon. We went over to our neighbor’s house and hung out in their air conditioning (N and K, you guys are the best!) We brought Elliot over because he looked really unhappy in our house. The cats were fine though. Freakin’ Ham kept going in our garage to hang out. But it had to be well over a hundred degrees in there. Cats, man.

On Saturday night, we went to Kura Revolving Sushi with friends. It was my first time there and it was great. Loved the concept and I thought the food was good. We got ice cream at Cafe Hue. Then the boyfriend and I went grocery shopping at Sprouts. The novelty has still not worn off. I love Sprouts! When we got home, I took a cold shower and laid in front of the air conditioner. Bliss.

Sunday morning, I went to Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf in Poway with my neighbor so we could work on our respective books. This is a practice I highly recommend to writers…find an accountability buddy that lives near you and will go sit with you as you block out time to write and be creative. It really makes a huge difference in what is a very solitary pursuit. We both got some great work done, good progress on both of our books, and I really liked that location so I will be back. Despite the heat, it was not really that busy though I had to laugh as I looked around at the other people and they all had suitcases, duffle bags, and bags of stuff they needed to camp out and wait for the sun to go down. I definitely looked like that myself this weekend –  a refugee from the heat wave.

After lunch, I went to the Starbucks at Target by my house to work on client work and repeat the process of waiting around for the sun to go down and the temperature to drop.

This was a long, freakin’ hot weekend. I was not a fan. And I don’t even want to think about what our electric bill will be this month. Something horrendous I’m sure.

What I’m Reading:

Undercurrents: An Anthology of What Lies Beneath edited by Lisa Mangum (Finished!)

DotCom Secrets by Russell Brunson

One Horn to Rule Them All: A Purple Unicorn Anthology edited by Lisa Mangum

Warstorm by Victoria Aveyard

What I’m Listening To:

There was a great episode of The Sunny Show this week. You can check it out here.

Also, if you like books, authors, and writing, I started listening to First Draft Pod. I’ve only listened to one episode, the one with Ransom Riggs, but I liked the format and plan to listen to more.

What I’m Watching:

Saw Deadpool 2 this week in theaters.

What I’m Loving:

Air conditioning. Hands down.

Week in Review June 23rd-29th

I usually try and write this blog as the week is happening so I don’t forget things.

Didn’t do that this week. Definitely forgot things. Lol.

You’ll remember that one of the things I did after starting Minute Marketing was clean my desk/office. While I was doing that was I found a bunch of papers and things that were never filed or thrown away dating back to 2013. Seeing that date on the papers was shocking. I couldn’t believe that there were things I really hadn’t touched or done anything with in five years.

Then, my friend C texted me her new headshot. She mentioned that it had been five years since the last one so it was time for an update.

I. Was. Shocked.

We took our headshots on the same day. Had it really been five years already?

I questioned her and she said the picture was taken the year she turned 21 (I remember that, she turned 21 shortly after we met) and she was about to turn 26.

So she was definitely right, but I can’t even believe five years has gone just like that.

Now that I’ve been doing this weekly blog review of what I did the last week, I’ve started to like it. Similar to what happened when I started writing my book reviews on this blog, my memory is improving. The weeks feel like less of a clump and more like distinct entities. Hopefully this weekly blogging will help me keep the years of my life straight.

Because, honestly? The last five years were kind of a blur.

Sure, there were fun things and bad things, things that stick out in my mind that I know exactly when they happened and things that stick out that I have no idea when they happened. But none of the years feel very separated from each other.

Time and memory are tricky things.

Anyway, let’s dive into the week (what I can remember of it, anyway):

I’m not positive about all I did during the day Saturday. I know I worked on Shadow of the Magician because I hit my target goal of the weekend of nine chapters edited. I think I did some work after that. I probably did. I work every day right now. I know I took Elliot for a long walk, which seemed like a good idea at the time. Then the boyfriend and I cleaned and dusted the living room on Saturday night before going to Wings-N-Things as a reward.

Sunday, I know I worked on Shadow of the Magician again and then I think I did some work. I took myself to Sprouts to go grocery shopping, which was fun because I took my time looking around at what they sell. We also ended purchasing plane tickets for our Puerto Vallarta trip in November, so that was good. Bit of a struggle figuring out the flights. Not a lot of US carriers service that area from San Diego. We ended up deciding to fly out of Los Angeles because we have friends up there and were able to book the same flight out as them. Not sitting together though because Delta wanted to charge us $600 more to pick our seats (not an exaggeration).

My back was hurting on Sunday, too. I have issues with my SI joint on one side and I get random flare-ups every 6-8 months. Just a side effect of falling off horses too many times. Usually I can attach it to something, but this time the only thing I could think of was the walk the day before or the fact that I have a new chair. Elliot was also limping around so we were quite a pair. Elliot has arthritis in one of his ankle joints and is supposed to take pain medication, though I have not been so good about remembering to give it to him daily.

Monday was BUSY. I had back-to-back meetings in the morning. First one was at Holsem Coffee in North Park and I got THE most delicious chai latte there. I modified the one they have on the menu so here’s what I got that was so good: chai latte without the maple, with almond milk instead of regular, and sweetened with vanilla. Mmmm.

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After that meeting I drove home to get on a video chat with a prospective client. Decided I don’t really like video chats. Kind of kicked up my anxiety. Pushed through it to do some work the rest of the day before I got on another call with one of my clients and then it was time for writer’s group. We had a smaller group and it was more of a brainstorming session discussing each other’s books and how to get through our problems.

Tuesday I rode Pia in the morning. My trainer is going away for a couple weeks so we packed in as many rides as possible before she left. Pia was not so good on Tuesday and my back was still bothering me. I did a lot of work on Tuesday after that since I didn’t have any meetings or calls.

Wednesday I went back to the barn in the morning. My back was feeling much better all on its own and I had a much better ride on Pia. I went home and had to call AT&T because they were trying to charge me for another month even though I returned my box. Got that sorted just in time to go to another meeting with a potential client at Panera Bread. I tried the frozen blood orange lemonade from their summer menu…it tasted nothing like lemonade and was like drinking an orange juice slushy. After the meeting I headed back home to do some work.

Thursday I had my final ride with my trainer before she leaves and Pia was good again. My back was also good. I’m honestly surprised I got over that flare-up so quickly. It usually hangs around for a week or so before gradually subsiding. This was like 2.5 days of pulsing pain and then back to normal. Not complaining, just weird. Someone recommend I see a DO (doctor of osteopathy) since my condition is a chronic condition and I have not found a solution, just methods of managing it. I will probably give that a try just to see if their methods make a difference. But that will be after my expensive trip to the dentist – the joys of adulthood!

I listened to a great podcast (linked below) which inspired me to try and make my work time more efficient. I did end up getting a lot done before I went to meet another prospective client in Del Mar. Got a little caught in the fair traffic, but not too bad. I then drove to my friend K’s apartment because we had bookclub that night.

I love my bookclub. We’re multi-generational! It’s my friend, K, her mother, her mother’s friend, myself, and another woman whom K knows because she used to babysit her grandchildren. The differences in ages and life experiences make our book discussions really fun. We meet every two months, usually at K’s apartment. We read The Book That Matters Most and had a summer potluck “barbecue”, which involved barbecue and picnic foods, but we didn’t actually do any grilling.

Friday I went down to the Bahia for Social Media Day. It was a nice event, I learned some thing (always good), and we had lunch literally on the beach behind the Bahia. It was a grey, gloomy day which was a little depressing. I really hate June gloom.

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After I got home, my neighbors came over with a fruit tart. I’d been taking care of their cats, plants, and house while they were away. I had to medicate one of the cats twice a day so my training from when I used to work at a veterinary clinic came in handy as kitty definitely did not want me sticking that syringe anywhere near her mouth.

The boyfriend and I tried a new place on Miramar called Bowl to Go for dinner. The meat was definitely tasty, but they don’t give you much meat for the price. They give you a ton of rice to fill up the bowl, which is fine, but then they charge $7.50 for about $2 worth of meat.

Tried to go to bed earlier, ended up reading a lot of Undercurrents (tagged below) and then I discovered there were ants in the bedroom. Apparently they liked our laundry. So we ended up doing laundry at 10pm. Ugh. So over the ants. I keep putting out poison traps, which kind of works, but they retreat into the walls and then pop out at another, different spot when they find something else to eat. I know I should bomb the house, but it’s such a hassle, especially when you have pets. Anyone have suggestions for me?

What I’m Reading:

Rise of the Youpreneuer by Chris Ducker (Finished!)

Undercurrents: An Anthology of What Lies Beneath edited by Lisa Mangum

DotCom Secrets by Russell Brunson

What I’m Listening To:

On her podcast this week, Amy Porterfield had Brooke Castillo on to talk about productivity, mindset, and taking action. SUCH a great episode. You can listen to it here.

What I’m Watching:

Nothing this week.

What I’m Loving:

This honey goat cheese I got at Sprouts last weekend. SO good!

Week in Review: June 16th-June 22nd

Last week I mentioned I was pondering two thoughts that I wanted to share.

Well. Now I’ve added one more. Lots of competing thoughts in my brain this week, but what else is new.

The first is that work doesn’t have to be stressful. Unless you’re a police officer or an emergency room doctor, there is very little that is life or death. And everything is fixable in the end.

The second is that the goals you set for yourself should be things you can control, not things you can’t control. For example, one of my goals used to be, “Sell Shadow of the Magician to a Big Five publisher”. But that goal isn’t up to me. So I revised it to be, “Finish Shadow of the Magician and make it the best book I can”.

The third: You’ve got three choices. Give up. Give in. Or give it all you’ve got.

While I’ve been adjusting to my new life, I don’t pretend to have this all figured out. Or to have any kind of balance. This week was filled with some really great moments and some really crappy moments. Moments where I was really proud of myself and other moments where I was terrified because there is no GPS, no roadmap for this. Not even a post-it note drawing.

I’m still binging on as many podcasts as ever, which seems to inspire me and frighten me in equal parts. I think the inspiration part is kind of obvious. But what scares me is that most people who become ultra-successful also experience big, soul-crushing failures.

And I’ve never failed like that.

And it scares me that my greatest failure may still lie ahead of me.

That it’s lurking somewhere on the horizon.

Which makes the no-roadmap-for-this thing kind of hard to swallow some days. I’m hoping I’m making good choices. The right choices. Choices that don’t lead down a bad road.

But. I have no idea.

On that cheery note, I’ll breeze through my week in review!

Saturday I woke up late after hanging out with my friends on Friday night and watching American Vandal with the boyfriend after I got home. Threw off my whole day. I was pretty unfocused and unmotivated. I did manage to force myself to do some stuff, but it was not pretty. Really not pretty.

After a day that is not much to write home about, I ended up checking out our new neighborhood Sprouts and then watching the rest of American Vandal with the boyfriend. It was good. I really liked that show. I also liked that the season was self-contained and short. I can really only handle TV that’s mini-series length these days – the only way I can even finish something without feeling guilty about it.

Sunday, I got up early and worked on Shadow of the Magician for a little while. Got some good work in, was pretty proud of myself. Looked at what I have left to do, decided I could maybe finish my edits by the beginning of August.

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The boyfriend and I then went to the fair. We didn’t go last year so I was excited to go. It’s kind of the same thing every year so it was nice that we took a break. This year’s theme was basically candy and also unicorns. Was digging the unicorns. Really like the unicorn trend.

We met up with a few friends while we were at the Fair, ate some ridiculous and also over-priced food, and checked out the speakeasy which makes some strong drinks. Word to the wise. Was super disappointed that I could only have half my drink because I drove.

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Monday I went to the barn and had a good ride on Miss Pia. Which was great because my day started off stressful trying to juggle some last-minute client appointments and reschedule things. I’m glad Pia was the easy part of the day. Also got her saddle adjusted so checked that off the list.

Spent some time working at Starbucks in their blessed air conditioning and met a client for lunch at Bushfire. I am obsessed with their short rib bowl. Not like I’ve ever had anything else there, but it is damn good.

After lunch, I picked up my new desk chair – hallelujah! Took advantage of Office Depot’s chair assembly service so my chair was ready to roll (get it?) as soon as I got it home. Tried to make the most of the rest of the day before writer’s group. Launched a client’s website and got a referral for a new client.

At writer’s group, I had chapters again. Got some GREAT feedback, which made me really excited. And also sad that now I doubt I’m going to make the August deadline for my edits. It was a great 24 hours while it lasted.

Tuesday morning I started off a roll before I had to head to the dentist. Fun times. I broke my mouth guard recently (better than my teeth I guess, been there, done that) so my next visit to the dentist in July will be super expensive because I have to get my mouth guard replaced and I also have to get a filling. Fun factoid: I have super weird back molars which is great for games of two truths and a lie and not so great for my wallet. Those suckers are hard to take care of.

Tuesday night I had dinner with friends and clients in Encinitas at Blue Ribbon Pizza. I haven’t been there in years and it was super yummy.

Wednesday I had another good ride with Pia. She got her back shoes put on while I ran home to get on a prospective client call. Went well except for the mini heart attack I had when the client called me two hours earlier than planned because they mixed up what time the meeting was because of the time change. Not the thing you want to be sorting out before you’ve had your daily caffeine.

I was in SUCH a great work groove after the meeting UNTIL…migraine. Ugh. I was hopeful that I would take my Excedrin like always, wait half an hour for my vision to go back to normal, and then get back to my work. No such luck. This is the first time a migraine has made me feel sick in a long time. Which was super inconvenient because not only did I have stuff to do, I was supposed to meet my friend, C, for dinner.

I decided to go to dinner anyway, hopeful that if I drank enough water and got super hydrated I would feel better. She was late meeting me at the new True Foods at UTC and while I waited I ordered a (non-alcoholic) drink called the Medicine Man. And wouldn’t you know it, I actually felt better after that. Maybe it was just the name. So dinner went as planned and we had a good time catching up and celebrating her birthday.

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Thursday I was determined to do some damage to my to-do list. This was one of my better work days though I had a client call and went to see my chiropractor towards the end of the day. When I’m not in good working order, I tend to get headaches and if I ignore the situation for too long, I usually will get a migraine. Plus my back had been hurting all week because Pia is learning flying changes. And doing them at all the wrong times and with a buck, too.

Friday I rode Pia who was not good. Yikes. Hopefully she’ll be better after the weekend. Maybe too many changes in one week with her saddle and the new shoes. After that, it was off to another client appointment in Carlsbad. Never been to that part of Carlsbad before. On the way back, I forgot there was fair traffic so I ended up going through San Marcos and Vista to the 78 to get home. And I saw even more new-to-me parts of San Diego.

I chugged through a good amount of my to-do list in the afternoon before I had to do a bunch of contracts and proposals. Proposals take so long, oh my god. Grateful that I have proposals to do, but yeesh. I actually like doing the market research and planning out the strategy, it’s just that it takes a long time.

Friday night, the boyfriend and I officially broke out our air conditioning unit. It’s a plug-in monstrosity we bought at Home Depot years ago that eats up electricity like no one’s business, but it makes the heat bearable. Summer has officially arrives!

What I’m Reading:

Give and Take by Adam Grant (Finished!)

Rise of the Youpreneuer by Chris Ducker

I’m planning to start War Storm by Victoria Aveyard, but I haven’t been wanting to read before bed. It’s been sitting on my nightstand for over a week. I think I’m also in that weird limbo where my own writing is going good so I don’t want to read anything from author’s I really, really like, because then I’ll feel down about my own writing. It’s hard to practice staying in your own lane when you love reading. It’s not like Instagram where I can just unfollow my competitors.

What I’m Listening To:

Tim Ferriss interviewed Brandon Stanton (the Human of New York guy) on his podcast and I loved every minute of it. Listen to it here.

What I’m Watching:

Check out American Vandal on Netflix.

What I’m Loving:

My new desk chair. It’s every bit as amazing as I imagined it would be. Ergonomics for the win.

June 9th-June 15th: Week in Review

This week I really enjoyed not being sick and also being able to work in shorts. It’s the little things, guys.

On the heels of a productive week, I thought I’d share all of the podcasts that have been keeping me company. It’s weird when you go from sharing an office to being home alone all day. And I don’t mean sharing an office as in there are other people near by…I mean legitimately sharing the same room. It’s a big adjustment to go from never being alone to always being alone.

The boyfriend has a job where he works a school year schedule and a summer schedule. He hasn’t switched to summer schedule yet so he’s been home in the mornings. Which is good because I’m not alone. But bad because I get distracted by him. Imagine all the things you do after you get home from work and that’s what his morning is like.

And then he leaves and I’m alone again.

So, to fill up the space I’ve been listening to podcasts. I started listening to podcasts a few years ago after I got my real estate license. I discovered I really liked spending my time in the car learning something, not listening to music. Since then, I think I’ve really accelerated my personal and career development through the number of hours I’ve put in to listening to podcasts. If I’m driving, I’m probably listening to a podcast. If I’m cleaning, I’m definitely listening to a podcast. Exercising? Podcast. Walking dog? Yep, podcast.

Here’s what I currently enjoy, loosely grouped by topic!

Entrepreneurship, Business, and Mindset:

Gary Vaynerchuk, The Gary Vee Audio Experience

John Lee Dumas, Entreprenuer on Fire

Pat Flynn, Smart Passive Income

Chris Ducker, Youprenuer

Mike Dillard, Self Made Man

Tim Ferriss, The Tim Ferriss Show

And not technically a podcast, but still including:

Darren Hardy, Darren Daily

Marketing, Blogging, and Vlogging:

Amy Porterfield, Online Marketing Made Easy

Sunny Lenarduzzi, The Sunny Show

Social Media Examiner, both the Social Media Marketing podcast and the Social Media Marketing Talk Show

John Jantsch, Duct Tape Marketing

John Jantsch, Consulting Spark

Buffer, The Science of Social Media

Amy Landino, Vlog Boss Radio

Ray Edwards, The Ray Edwards Show

Darren Rowse, ProBlogger

Copyblogger, Copyblogger FM

Writing:

K.M. Weiland, Helping Writers Become Authors

NPR, 10 Minute Writer’s Workshop (now over, but go binge the old episodes!)

Brandon Sanderson et al., Writing Excuses

Various Topics:

TED, TED Talks Daily

NPR and TED, TED Radio Hour

NPR, Hidden Brain

I would LOVE to hear your podcast recommendations so leave me a comment below with some more. I’m especially looking more to go in the “Various Topics” section because sometimes I want to half-listen to something and passively learn or not learn.

Let’s dive into the week!

Despite how terrible I felt on Friday, I woke up feeling lots better on Saturday. I did some work in the morning before and during my dog’s grooming session. He gets groomed to the house, which is really convenient. The groomer has her own bus that she brings and parks outside. It’s actually not that much more expensive to get Elliot groomed at home than to take him somewhere. Like maybe $20-30 more a session. And he gets done in half or a third of the time and isn’t stressed because he’s not stuck in a drying cage for hours and listening to other stressed out dogs. Plus, he’s always groomed by the same person.

I tried to wash Elliot myself a couple times after I adopted him home from Helen Woodward. All were terrible experiences for both of us. The first time I tried to wash him in the backyard. The end result was a wet, not very clean dog, a lot of mud, and a soaked human. Second time, I tried to wash him in the bath tub. Also terrible because I had to lift him over the edge of the tub while he was struggling to get away from me and fit him through the opening of the glass door. Elliot’s currently a little fat, he’s about seventy-seven pounds right now. But he’s pretty much been between seventy and seventy-five pounds the whole time I’ve had him. The third time I washed him I decided to try the walk-in shower. But the shower wasn’t big enough for both of us so I thought I’d put him in the shower and I’d kneel outside and wash him and clean up all the water in the bathroom after. Well, Elliot made a run for it after about a minute of being bathed and pushed me out of the way which caused me to hit my head and neck on the tile wall. Yep, we were done with the home grooming business after that.

But getting him groomed was not much better. He was so stressed about the grooming, I literally had to drag/carry him to the appointment. He would not go into the shop. Any shop. So that was a struggle right from the moment we got to the parking lot. Once you got him inside, he laid down on the floor and refused to walk. And he’s way too big for me to have to work that hard to get him there and then feel like I was torturing him as he trembled from head to toe. So to me, it’s well worth that extra money to get him done at home!!

After Elliot was done with his grooming, I went and got myself groomed. I had made an appointment earlier in the week on a day when I wasn’t feeling so bad to get my hair touched up. I recently started dyeing it because the greys were getting out of control.

Then, I met up with the boyfriend and we drove up to Oceanside to have an early Father’s Day dinner with his dad and family at Texas Roadhouse. This dinner also included some assorted friends so that was fun.

After that, we went back to his family’s house to meet their new dog. They just adopted a German Shepherd after their old dog passed away a few months ago. Their new dog is very nice and hopefully he and Elliot will get along as we like to leave Elliot there when we go on vacation because they have a big piece of property and the dogs can pretty much go in and out as they please.

On Sunday I actually found some time to work on Shadow of the Magician in the morning. I rewrote one chapter that needed it and edited four more that didn’t need an overhaul. I worked some more in the afternoon to try and catch up on some of the things that didn’t get done the week before.

Monday morning I finally made it back to the barn where I had to make some decisions for Pia. She’s still not feeling like herself so we decided to try the progesterone injection (basically Depo-Provera), called the farrier to consider getting shoes put on her back feet (she’s only shod in the front), and added her onto the saddle fitter’s list for the next time they come out. I rode Pia on Monday and left crossing my fingers that one of those things would do it.

I had an afternoon meeting in Clairemont so I decided not to go home. It was nearing lunch time so I decided to go to Panera Bread since I knew they had food, tables, wifi, and electric sockets. Spent about two or so hours there working before going across the street to the Forum Coffee House. If you follow me on Instagram, this is the home of the blue chai! I kid you not, it is truly blue!

Once I got home, I didn’t have that much time to work before Writer’s Group. This day was basically a day of not very much getting done on the work front, but yet being busy doing stuff for the business.

Tuesday I woke up early to get some work done. It was dark and kind of cloudy so I went into the garage to do my Miracle Morning routine at my actual desk. The boyfriend’s been sleeping on the couch since I’ve been sick and I didn’t want to turn on the light in the kitchen so I could see because we have an open floor plan and the living room and kitchen are pretty much the same room, just divided by a half wall.

While I was doing the exercising portion of the Miracle Morning, I looked up at the ceiling and discovered this situation. Apparently the rose bushes in the front yard decided to grow a branch under the exterior wall and up through the interior of the garage wall (there’s kind of a space behind the paneling). I honestly don’t understand how this could have happened. But here we are.

Later, I got a good amount of work done while I was waiting for the internet guy to show up. The boyfriend has been after me for years to upgrade or change our internet service provider. But I refused because a) I thought it would be really expensive to get better internet and b) I thought it would be a big hassle to change and c) I didn’t think we really needed it. However, when I started the business he suddenly had a good case for upgrading the internet. He did all on the research and it turns out that by switching to Spectrum, we wouldn’t pay any more money, but we’d get 20x faster internet. I’m serious, it truly is 20x faster. Now that we have it installed, I can say that I see the results of this more on the upload end of things. Last week, it took me well over thirty minutes to load a video longer than five minutes to Facebook. This week, it took me less than five minutes. I am in love.

Wednesday, went back to the barn. Rode Pia who felt soo much better. I am so relieved. The shot is kicking in already. And she seems way happier too. She was very relaxed when I got there. After after I was done, I turned her out into the pen like I usually do. Normally, she gets her cookie and immediately walks away to go do her own thing (#DoinPiaThings). But she actually hung around me and was rubbing her head up against me and just generally being very sweet. Heart. Melt.

We’re still going ahead with all of my other plans from Monday, but I’m so glad that we’re already seeing improvements!

Wednesday just generally ended up being a great day. Got more stuff done. Took Elliot for a walk, ran into one of my neighbors down the street, finished organizing my office in the evening. Solid day.

Thursday though…oh man. So busy. I worked hard this day to try and get through all the new things that had to be done in a hurry. One of the busier work days I’ve had since starting the business.

Still took a break to walk dogs with my neighbor. It was super hot on Thursday and after I got back, it was so hot in the house it was making me tired. Later, my friend, K, called me to see if I was free for dinner because she was nearby. I ended up meeting her at Soup Plantation and it was nice to spend some time with a friend after a busy day. Also the air conditioning was A+.

Friday, I was lazy about getting out of bed so I crammed the Miracle Morning into fifteen minutes before I had to leave for the barn because my lesson was earlier than normal. Rode Miss Pia who still felt great so I am very encouraged about that!

Came home and had another great work day. This week I really felt like I was actually making a difference and getting results. I also had a really exciting idea for the business as I listened to some podcasts. It will definitely take a lot of work and time to get there, but if I could do it, it would be SO cool.

In the afternoon, I drove over to Mostra Coffee in Carmel Mountain to meet my friend who telecommutes on Friday. I have to go somewhere with air conditioning in the afternoons now otherwise I get too sleepy to work. Got the chai tea latte which was pretty good. I didn’t love it, it was sweet in an odd way. But I really liked the vibe at Mostra. The only downside is because it was afternoon, there were a lot of people coming in and for some reason, the people coming in with kids were just letting their kids run wild. So, I was pretty grumpy about that. I’m not sure I would come back to Mostra in the afternoon. Not a quiet place to get some work done.

I met my friend, L, for dinner at a hot pot place on Convoy St. It was…not good. I don’t know if we just went to a place that wasn’t good, picked all the worst things on the menu, or just managed to not make the food taste good. We were both pretty disappointed so we walked over to Iceskimo – now THAT was a good choice. I’d never been to Iceskimo before, but it was tasty. It’s shaved ice, not ice cream so that’s important to know before you go, but I was pleasantly surprised by how much I liked it.

After that, we went down to North Park to see my friend, S, before he moves to Orange County. We checked out JuneShine, which is a newly opened Hard Kombucha place. Really good. Cute place. Great music. 10/10 would recommend.

I was still feeling pretty awake so I went with the group to Coin Op Game Room and stayed out much later than planned. When I finally got home, the boyfriend was watching a show on Netflix called American Vandal and I sat and watched multiple episodes of that before finally going to bed.

What I’m Reading:

Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferris (Finished! Review coming soon!)

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood (Finished! Review coming soon!)

Give and Take by Adam Grant (Almost Done!)

What I’m Listening To:

I’ve been on a major Taylor Swift kick lately. My favorite albums are Speak Now, Red, and 1989. Reputation is kind of a hot mess.

What I’m Watching:

Check out American Vandal on Netflix.

What I’m Loving:

Had some really great epiphanies this week – will share more in next week’s blog!

 

 

 

June 2nd-8th: Week in Review

I had big plans for this week: finish the rest of my business set up to-do list, renew my gym membership, record some videos for Minute Marketing, wash my car…

And then I got sick and then none of that gone done.

Le Sigh.

This week I’m very grateful for Trello and my systems I have in place to keep myself on track…I definitely didn’t have any extra brain power to waste on figuring out what I should be doing.

Saturday was Day One of the horse show with Pia. Man was it hot. And man, did I work hard before I even rode. I got there around ten and somehow barely sat down all day. Both of my ride times were after 5pm which I was not stoked about.

I got some pictures of those cows though, in between the many circuits I made between the barn and the show ring. Some of them at least were longhorns, though I’m not sure what that big one was. A few of the cows were pretty friendly and came up to the fence. Pretty much all of our horses got over the cow anxiety by show’s end except for Pia.

But Pia wasn’t really herself this show. We think she may have gone into heat. She’s still growing up (though almost done) and we haven’t been together that long. It wasn’t a problem last spring, but things can change.

We ended up scoring decent in our two classes on Saturday though she didn’t feel her best. Not sick or sore, just…different.

I went to Starbucks on the way home as I was certain I needed some caffeine so I could drive an hour without falling asleep. I planned to get my standard soy chai latte, but I saw they had these new iced tea drinks. I asked the cashier about caffeine content and then stared at the board forever, debating whether I should go with my old standby or try something new. Being that it was after 7pm, the cashier helpfully told me that the passion tea one had no caffeine.

Lol. No ma’am, I am here for that caffeine!

I ended up getting the Strawberry Green Tea which was…not good. Too fake strawberry tasting. I was instantly sad I didn’t get the chai.

I was so tired when I woke up on Sunday, I fully convinced myself it was Monday. And not just in that way where you’re only confused for thirty seconds what day it is. No, I believed this for a good five minutes until I went out to the kitchen and saw the cooler I’d left by the fridge to remind myself that I needed to take stuff from the fridge back to the show.

Despite the couple cups of tea I had before I left the house, I was still the kind of tired where your eyes don’t work properly. So I swung by Starbucks and got that Soy Chai I missed out on the night before. Heaven.

On Saturday, I spent the drive up catching up with my friend K in England. That time change is brutal and with me being so busy, it’s been hard to make time for any of my friends. It was great to catch up and the time went by super quickly.

On Sunday, I listened to my podcasts. I was going to talk about my favorites on this week’s Week in Review blog, but I’ll save that for next week.

Sunday wasn’t quite so crazy busy. I was supposed to ride after 5pm again, but I was able to find an opening and move up my ride by several hours. For those of you don’t understand horse shows or just don’t know Dressage, because every test is pre-written in an official book at the start of the year, each test is also tagged with the approximate time it will take to complete. That means the show organizers can plan out the day down to the minute because they know how long it will take to do each test based on how many pairs there are and who entered what. This is very useful for spectators!

I braided Pia and Escobar both days at the show. There’s a picture below of Pia with her mane braided. I learned how to do this a long time ago and now I have a useful skill that’s actually increasingly rare. Most people don’t sew their braids in anymore. Everyone uses rubber bands with mixed results. But there ain’t no braid like a yarn braid – those puppies are stable.

Sewing in braids is exactly what it sounds like only instead of thread, I use yarn. You sew the little braids back onto themselves and the horses usually wear a stretchy hood at night to cover their braids. If I have time, I like to redo the braids each day. If the horse is good, it usually only takes me about thirty minutes and then the horse isn’t trying to scratch their braids out all day.

Pia had a fantastic warm-up, but things kind of fell apart when we went in the ring. The first half of the test was okay, but the second half was all bad. Like, really bad. Luckily, because I thought I was going to have a better ride, I paid the videographer to tape me. So that means I have video footage of what exactly went wrong in the second half of that test AND I have a video I can share with the vet and farrier (horseshoer) as we make some changes.

Escobar was a STAR though. I am so proud of that little man. He looked pleased as punch to be trotting and cantering around doing a couple easy tests. He was not spooky at all (yes, really!) and was about the most uncomplicated horse we took to the show.

I was so tired when I got home on Sunday, again. Everything hurt and I felt like I’d been walking through the desert for days. I did hardly any work throughout the weekend because I didn’t have the energy for it. I looked at Trello on Sunday and decided that, though I would probably regret it in the morning, bed was calling my name.

Well, Monday I woke up and figured out why I was so freakin’ tired all weekend…I had a sore throat.

I’m grateful to now be self-employed. While I didn’t get to take the day off, at least I didn’t have to put on makeup or talk to anyone. I didn’t even leave the house. I worked all day as I had planned though things felt twice as overwhelming because I also didn’t feel good.

Monday night I had writer’s group again and I had some chapters in the hopper. My writer’s group has now officially read several chapters beyond where anyone else has gotten in Shadow of the Magician and all hope is not lost so there’s that.

I think it’s invaluable to be part of a writer’s group. I felt like I improved so much from being in the last group. I really missed having that community and feedback so I was happy when I got an invite to join a new one. Joining a group is very scary and nerve-wracking, but if you can get past all that, it’s really a wonderful experience. I have a great group, I’m super grateful for all of them and their feedback.

Tuesday morning I felt better and went to a meeting in Pacific Beach in the morning. I had an appointment in the late afternoon in UTC so I didn’t feel like driving home after. I dropped off my ballot (yay, civic responsibilities!) at the library in PB. I’ve never been to that side of PB, weirdly. It’s actually really nice. I might go visit that library again though I guess it’s closed for repairs currently.

Instead of going home, I went to the UTC mall to get lunch at Tender Greens. I was happy to discover that they DO have wifi…the internet lied to me. I spent a couple hours working there after lunch before heading to my appointment. There were a surprising number of people at the mall on a Tuesday. It took me awhile to find parking which was irritating because that was the original problem with the UTC mall before they remodeled it and built an extensive parking garage. But, that’ll probably get better when they start charging people to park there.

It is annoying that they’re doing that because it penalizes people who stay for a long time to shop or who go to dinner and a movie. But on the other hand, people do leave their cars there and catch the bus to UCSD. When the trolley line is completed, I’m sure the problem will be even worse if they don’t do something about it now. However, I feel like there has to be a better way to control it than what they’ve chosen to do.

Tuesday night I felt much worse so that was a bummer.

Also on Tuesday we got ants in the house again. I really hate ants. Like, really, really hate them. I also hate that they tend to show up when I feel stressed or just generally don’t have the energy to deal with them. Ugh. It’s like they freakin’ know.

Wednesday I skipped my lesson and rescheduled pretty much everything I had on the calendar for the day. I worked all day, but actually stopped around 7pm. I spent some time in my garage office sorting and organizing. It was mostly papers that needed to be looked through and discarded. I’m now about 95% finished with organizing that space, hallelujah!

On Thursday, I felt a bit better, but I started coughing. Felt like I coughed all day. Did some work and took Elliot for a walk in the afternoon. I ran into an older lady a few streets over who randomly decided to mention to me that the spiders were killing her roses. That stopped me in my tracks and I asked her more about that. My succulents have been struggling outside. I figure they need to be repotted into new soil, but my gut was there was something more wrong that that. I looked it up later and it turns out spider mites (not spiders) can infest your plants and kill them. So now I have to figure out if that’s the problem with my plants.

It finally felt like summer this week, which means my house has been getting pretty warm in the afternoons. In all the years I’ve lived in Mira Mesa, I’ve never set foot in the public library. I know, crazy talk for someone who loves books. But I have trouble reading books on a schedule so I do prefer to buy books or borrow them from other people so I don’t feel confined to a deadline. Anyway. Went to the library and renewed my library card on Thursday. I also brought my computer. Not having air conditioning at home will be a problem this summer so I’m working out alternate solutions. The library seems fine. It smells funny, but it’s cool in there and they have little private work stations with outlets. Some of them even have windows. The windows look out to the parking lot, but hey, at least there is sunlight. Don’t love the chairs though. They have these hard wooden things with no arms. I’m going to check out some of the other branches, too. This one is convenient because it’s only about two miles from our house. But I can tell this library is a little long in the tooth so one of the newer ones might have a better set-up for me. Anyone in San Diego have a favorite branch library?

I spent a couple hours working at the library before they closed. Internet speed is okay, it’s about the same as we have at our house. But we’re getting new internet on Tuesday that is literally about twenty times faster that what we have right now. Woohoo!

Thursday night I had a call with my friend A. We haven’t talked on the phone in a long time so it was nice to catch up.

Friday I had grand plans of going to the barn, but I woke up and felt terrible. So no riding again. Working was so hard. I was foggy, unfocused, making mistakes, and because I wasn’t feeling well, feeling anxious about the business and the future again. It’s amazing how when we have bad days or when we struggle, we regress significantly and the old demons come back to haunt us.

I told myself since I couldn’t take the day off, I had to at least get everything done that absolutely had to be done that day and then I could stop. I ended up finishing around four pm though I nursed a video that needed to be uploaded through the evening. It takes forever to upload videos with our current internet situation. I really, really hope upgrading our service will improve things dramatically.

Friday night, the boyfriend came home a bit earlier and went to Target. We have been planning a whole house deep cleaning and had earmarked Friday as the night we were going to clean the kitchen. I have been wanting to do this cleaning for months and months so I didn’t really want to cancel our plans, plus I was feeling better again. During one of my unfocused periods earlier in the day, I went down a rabbit hole of reading articles about the best ways to thoroughly clean a kitchen so we went to get some new products at Target.

We did tackle the kitchen! We did almost everything on the list I’d written out that I wanted to do. It took the two of us several hours to do it all. Sadly, only the stove and windows really look different, but I guess we have the satisfaction now of knowing we put significant time into the cleaning.

As we were cleaning the kitchen, I was struck by the dates on some things I was throwing out. I was throwing out spices from 2014 and 2015 and random food items from 2016. When I organized papers in my office earlier in the week, I found a lot of papers from 2014 and 2015 that weren’t really filed or organized properly.

2013 up until now feels like one big blur. After we moved out to Mira Mesa, I don’t have a lot of markers to differentiate one year from another. Same job, same boyfriend, same house, same stage in life. Going through this purging and looking at the dates on things makes me think the blurring of years isn’t just a memory failure. It’s seeped over into the rest of my life. I clean, but somehow I guess I haven’t done a major purge since maybe early in 2016.

I do know that I was writing a lot more seriously in 2016 and 2017. And also working on my blog. But I guess I was going through the motions of life in other ways.

One thing I’ve been enjoying about the entrepreneur journey is that I feel a lot more present in my life. I’m a lot more in tune with my body and I can actually hear my gut speaking to me. It’s not that I’m not busy because I am, but I guess I just don’t have pressure in the same way. I feel anxious more than I’d like to and worry about the future, but the work itself is not overwhelming and is very doable.

What I’m Reading:

Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferris (been reading this off and on since January)

The Book That Matters Most by Ann Hood

Give and Take by Adam Grant

What I’m Listening To:

What I’m Watching:

Nothing this week.

What I’m Loving:

That it’s been sunny almost every day this week!